The Infamous “Do You Have A Boyfriend?”
Good Morning everyone, I hope you’re all having a great Wednesday. Recently I went home to California to visit my wonderful family and friends. Now, when visiting there is always the normal conversation (you changed your hair, how is wok etc.). Then comes the real question “ Do you have a boyfriend? “. The dreaded question all single people get asked. I myself am asked this question quite often and it is always awkward. I go through the normal answers that sound socially appropriate, just to give an answer everyone will be satisfied with, but is it the truth?
The answer I give is it true or am I just giving a response because I don’t want to go through the breakdown of why I am single.I know it is hard to believe that a twenty-four year old woman with no kids, two degrees, decent job and an entrepreneur is single. I always get the same question “ why are you single? “, or “ Someone needs to snatch you up asap”, (Rolls eyes every time). The truth is I don’t know how to date in this generation. I literally don’t know the do’s and don’ts of dating anymore. Honestly dating in this time is a double-edged sword and you never know anymore. The crazy part isn’t even dating and talking its getting out of that stage and actually getting into the relationship which is the hardest. Everyone is cool with these “ situationships” (where you do everything as a couple but you aren’t an official couple).
I don’t want that (been there done that). Lets not forget the fact that I am somewhat antisocial. I really do not understand people’s logic most of the time so I’d rather not engage in particular conversations. In that sense I am really at a disadvantage. I believe, personal opinion (doesn’t mean S**T outside of this article). Our generation is changed and shifted the real aspect of what it means to be in a committed relationship with someone. Being in relationships are no longer taken serious to people these days. Now during this time relationships are disposable (anyone can be replaced at anytime for any reason). I also think everything is very superficial as well.
People date now for what they believe is reality when a lot of times its all a façade. I honestly want to know what happened to real dates? Where people set a time to meet at a specific place etc. what happened to real introductions when you wanted a persons number “ Hello, my name is “ and so forth. Now its “ Netflix and Chill” (which means you just in the house and watching Netflix) and “Aye, what is your name? “. As I said this is my opinion, you can feel completely different that’s cool too. I myself do not know how to navigate the dating world. I honestly don’t care too either. I am pretty sure there are people who feel the same way. They ask themselves where do they fit in, in the dating scene now. I know for me I am slightly awkward, I tend to ramble on, I can very outspoken at times. Also in the last few years and experiences my standards and expectations have changed.
The things I thought I wanted in a significant other have changed significantly. My mindset is not the same. I have become more open minded and I am very open to dating other nationalities. Excuse my rant these are just thoughts and opinions. The final cut and scene I am single because I don’t want something disposable. I don’t want to treat people like there disposable. I at this moment as well have a lot on my plate. I am working fulltime and running two businesses full time as well. I understand my schedule and my time restraints. As I tell people until I find someone worth putting my laptop down for, I’ll just be chilling and working (mostly working). P.S. Do not get me wrong a lot of what is taking place is just a repeat. Just in new modification, new terminology and new ways of doing the same ole thang. Side note: When the hell did it become a proud moment to say that you sharing a man or woman with someone else. When did it become a proud moment to proudly claim that you’re a side chick or side dude. When?