How to be Single?

How to be Single

By: Jade LeSure

Single the dreaded word that many are all too familiar with. The six letter word that describes many of our current situations to a fault. As my grandpa likes to tell me “ are you going to be an old spinster, because you’re not getting any younger”. I know sounds so wonderful to be reminded your single. The story of my life though and the case for many others.

Being single is complicated hell it’s a struggle. Because like many you have joined the ranks of what feels like club dread. Why? Because so many in society tell you, you need to have a companion. I mean the process of natural selection is in the end to find a mate. With that constant realization in mind, society constantly puts out movies and ad campaigns in hopes it will spark the love bug. The love bug that most people are yearning for and desire. What happens when reality sinks in though, and you realize that the love bug or natural selection might not be on your side this time? What happens, when potential mates are no longer on your potential bae list? What do you do when it’s just you?

Now, like myself and others you may know, you have come to the conclusion that you are undoubtedly single. Now, the real question is what do you do with this new found life changer. Let’s be real it’s not always a life changer for some, and then for others it’s a total game changer. I, myself have finally hit the undoubtedly single mark. After two years of potential baes and no one making the cut, here I am. I am in the same spot you’re in, and trying to understand what the hell do I do from here? The ultimate question is, what don’t you do? (get your mind out the gutter)

Being single doesn’t have to be a tragedy. Single life isn’t the end of the world. Actually it’s a whole new beginning. It’s a whole new life and realization moment. The realization of what to do from this point? What do I really want out of life? What being single has taught me in these last couple of months is that, I am very content being alone. I am okay with it being just me. Please don’t get it confused. I have been single for over two years, but when potential baes are around, you’re not really alone. Someone is still there and hovering around. When you’re undoubtedly single, that’s when it’s just you, no distractions and no potential baes. Just you! The just you moments are what shape you and prepare you for the elusive “ One”. The one that were all googly eyed for. Our modern day “ Prince Charming” as you may say. Until then, while it is just you, enjoy learning about yourself, enjoy discovering new habits and hobbies. Just enjoy being you, while it’s just you. Worry about potential baes later, trust me they ain’t going nowhere. (wink)