The Love Series: “Don’t Let The Romance Die
The Love Series: “Don’t Let The Romance Die”
By Chauncy Whaley Canady
Well we are now here its February where many are getting ready for Valentine’s Day and we all know how much that hassle can be. I want to inspire your mind, heart, and soul this month as we celebrate the “The Love Month.” In this series, I want to talk about some aspects that we need to examine to keep real love going on, because I believe why romantic relationships are dying in today’s age is the lack of love. I am not talking about gift giving love. I am taking about, I cannot live without you type of love. One thing that I feel that happens when you get comfortable in a relationship is it allows the romance to fizzle out to the point to where it dies.
When this takes place the other person that is in the union of this relationship feels like the time and effort is not in place to show the outward expression of love and concern for the relationship and when that happens all things start to go south. Many feel that romance requires a big bang of a grand event and the truth is it only requires just the simple things when you really think about it. So please today allow Dr. Whaley-Canady that is what I am calling myself all this month to help all the lovers and those who inspire to get into a relationship soon to keep that fire of romance going on.
As I stated before one of the reasons why romance dies is because people allow themselves to get comfortable in the relationship, so they think that romance is not required. My bother Charles Canady, Sr. has a saying that I always tell people and that is “Finish how your started” and that is a real fact if you were all into the romance when you were in pursuit of your partner, why you elect now to stop? The same thing that won them over you must keep that going on, because it is the essence of the spark of the relationship. Never get in your mind that romance is just for special occasion, because it is not at least once a day you should do something romantic for your love, because you never know when that person might need that moment in their life.
When you get comfortable you get relax and that will cause cracks in the relationship and you will hear an ear full of why you don’t do special things anymore. I don’t know about you but if you are on that end of the stick well you need to wake up after all of that hard work to win that special person over you just going to let the flame die. Because you think it is not needed anymore or better yet you think you have done all that needed and now you can relax? Don’t get in that mood and do not adopt that spirit.
Another reason why the romance dies and I know you might feel different but overkill. I know that is hard to process but it’s a reality and it can kill the romance. Think about this for a minute do you hate when someone puts on too much perfume or cologne because the smell is too much for the air and for you? Well that is what happens when you over romance because it kills the essence of the moment. As I have stated over again many believe that you must go all out every time to be romantic let me say this to you, that you do not have to do that all the time. Now I have been in many relationships but not many in the sense I just bounce from one to another, but I have experience and I been the one that over did things to show my love and it was to the point that I had a woman to break up with me due to that aspect of the overkill. Simple always works, but I say to you don’t always think that simple will always work occasionally, go all out once in a blue moon because the key to make romance work is suspense. Keep your partner thinking about what could happen next because I don’t know about you but the best moment in life is always a surprise.
To make your relationship grow, I say this to you “be romantic”, it really works and just don’t do it in odd phases, but do it as much you want your relationship to be and that is constant. Mix it up if needed to be but just do not allow the romance in your relationship to die, because it will cause death to the love that you have taken your time to build. You don’t have to always be smooth but always give a sense of your awareness of magic, you don’t have to always be bold but you can build a beautiful moment, you don’t always have to be charming but you can be cleaver in words. Just find what works for you so that your romance can be as original as you are. Don’t let your relationship get cold get that fire lit and just enjoy the warm embrace of your lover. One more time with me and say it like you mean it “Don’t let the Romance Die.”